Do you feel like you’re alone at school even when surrounded by your “friends”? Some kids can be pretty tough, if not downright cruel and lots of times you want to just retreat to the safety of home, family, and their own company. When you live in a world where NOBODY understands the real you, realize that for your parents, there is probably nothing so painful as to see their child sad because their friends are mean and selfish. Kids isolate themselves away from the people who really care. Years from now you probably won’t even remember the popular kids names, but for now, it’s tough, really, really tough. Socially, there are a lot of temptations to escape from it all, fit in and tune parents and family out. Before you go too far down that road, help your parents and family understand your problems. It requires more talking then you are comfortable with, BUT, it is a chance to teach your parents something about you and what makes you happy. Try these “family exercises” and as time passes, your family will come to you with their problems. As you listen and help them, you’ll start to realize what a valuable person you really are. Everybody, no matter how old, strong, tough, mean, or smart, is scared. Scared that they won’t be wanted or liked and that they are not valuable to other people. Parents are seriously scared that after you are 14 or 15 years old, you’ll think they are dumb and you’ll put your friends first and family last. So give these ideas a shot, keep it to yourself at first. I’ll bet you become the person everyone turns to at the dinner table for ideas. Now that ROCKS!
Be optimistic. You have a lot more hope and good cheer in this world than most parents. They’ve been working, paying taxes, seeing family members leave and maybe their parents have died. Show your parents how you look life's obstacles squarely in the eye and no matter how tough things get, you won’t lose sight of what makes you happy and keeps you healthy. You know it won’t be there everyday, but it is there. Remind your parents how important inner happiness is and how it makes you stronger. Outward happiness will follow with a strong inner foundation. Teach your parents that always acting tough and talking negatively create a perpetually unhappy person that continues to teach unhappiness. When you see something, people and especially yourself in the mirror, decide what your best day and feeling would be, close your eyes and concentrate on that, harder and harder. Make a wall around that feeling of contentment. Teach you parents how to do the same. Think hard, focus on that sensation and let it grow inside. Those thoughts about isolation and sadness – those will fade. Learn to be a pro at this, find the quickest way to that “place” in your spirit. Share this exercise with your family; they need you to show them. You taught yourself and now are a real pro. Your folks behaviors like embarrassing you in front of your friends, not paying attention when you need them, always taking sides with a bratty brother or sister, will begin to vanish. The time you spend talking with them, showing them how you found peace, even when sad from losing the “popularity contest” at school, will be a real lesson everyone will appreciate and thank you again and again. If you really want to feel good inside, take someone you care about that is sad and make them happy by showing how strong inside you’ve become!
Your parents need quality time with you. Simple as that, they see you disappearing into friendships, school trips and functions, friends on the phone, hours at the mall and they miss you. Yeh, they miss you big time. They try to tell you, you want to go with your friends, and over time they figure you don’t want them in your life. Tough times at the family. Give them a break and check out what’s up in their world, and remember, they are usually sad inside as well, so here is your chance – show them what you know and teach them happiness. If you have it in you, give them lots of loving attention, even if just once in awhile.
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Do you feel like you’re alone at school even when surrounded by your “friends”? Some kids can be pretty tough, if not downright cruel and lots of times you want to just retreat to the safety of home, family, and their own company. When you live in a world where NOBODY understands the real you, realize that for your parents, there is probably nothing so painful as to see their child sad because their friends are mean and selfish. Kids isolate themselves away from the people who really care. Years from now you probably won’t even remember the popular kids names, but for now, it’s tough, really, really tough. Socially, there are a lot of temptations to escape from it all, fit in and tune parents and family out. Before you go too far down that road, help your parents and family understand your problems. It requires more talking then you are comfortable with, BUT, it is a chance to teach your parents something about you and what makes you happy. Try these “family exercises” and as time passes, your family will come to you with their problems. As you listen and help them, you’ll start to realize what a valuable person you really are. Everybody, no matter how old, strong, tough, mean, or smart, is scared. Scared that they won’t be wanted or liked and that they are not valuable to other people. Parents are seriously scared that after you are 14 or 15 years old, you’ll think they are dumb and you’ll put your friends first and family last. So give these ideas a shot, keep it to yourself at first. I’ll bet you become the person everyone turns to at the dinner table for ideas. Now that ROCKS!
You know it won’t be there everyday, but it is there. Remind your parents how important inner happiness is and how it makes you stronger. Outward happiness will follow with a strong inner foundation. Teach your parents that always acting tough and talking negatively create a perpetually unhappy person that continues to teach unhappiness. When you see something, people and especially yourself in the mirror, decide what your best day and feeling would be, close your eyes and concentrate on that, harder and harder. Make a wall around that feeling of contentment. Teach you parents how to do the same. Think hard, focus on that sensation and let it grow inside. Those thoughts about isolation and sadness – those will fade. Learn to be a pro at this, find the quickest way to that “place” in your spirit. Share this exercise with your family; they need you to show them. You taught yourself and now are a real pro. Your folks behaviors like embarrassing you in front of your friends, not paying attention when you need them, always taking sides with a bratty brother or sister, will begin to vanish. The time you spend talking with them, showing them how you found peace, even when sad from losing the “popularity contest” at school, will be a real lesson everyone will appreciate and thank you again and again. If you really want to feel good inside, take someone you care about that is sad and make them happy by showing how strong inside you’ve become!
Your parents need quality time with you. Simple as that, they see you disappearing into friendships, school trips and functions, friends on the phone, hours at the mall and they miss you. Yeh, they miss you big time. They try to tell you, you want to go with your friends, and over time they figure you don’t want them in your life. Tough times at the family. Give them a break and check out what’s up in their world, and remember, they are usually sad inside as well, so here is your chance – show them what you know and teach them happiness. If you have it in you, give them lots of loving attention, even if just once in awhile. 
